How do you talk to your kids about sex?
- Do you have a kid under age 12?
- Are you anxious about the talks?
- Do you want to learn how to layer the talks over 2-3 years?
"Confidence in 30 DAYS: A Personalized Course"
Unlock the secrets of successfully parenting the Talks with
"Confidence in 30 Days: A Personalized Course."
Over the course of 1 month, Kathleen will personally guide you through transformative techniques that build your confidence in having the talks & actually have proven to delay a teen's initiation of sex.
Let's focus on YOU & your kid and take you from feeling anxious & unsure to beyond confident! You will be itching to initiate a talk by the end of the month!
This is open to parents of kids between the ages 4-15.
You will meet with Kathleen online, 5 times/30 minutes each, in 30 days.
Meeting #1 - What's your concerns, frustrations, & questions?
Meeting #2 - Review the activity from Meeting #1 w/ scripted guidance.
Meeting #3 - Long-term talks - Develop a Timeline w/ me.
Meeting #4 - What's working and what's not?
Meeting #5 - Graduation & Next Steps w/ Invitation to Join my ongoing Parenting Program
The only available times for the meetings are between 11AM Pacific Time/2PM Eastern Time and 1PM Pacific Time/4PM Eastern Time. If you cannot meet during these times, send an email to request a special accommodation.
Cost: $650
Are you ready to IMPROVE how you talk to your kid?
Are you ready to develop their critical thinking skills around sex?
Are you ready to give your child High-Quality & Age-Appropriate Sexuality Education?
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NEXT SESSION STARTS IN SEPTEMBER 2024
Is a 1.5 hour Sex Ed Parenting Course on Sex, Masturbation, & Porn right for YOU?
- Do you feel like your talks are all over the place?
- Do you find yourself wishing you said something different afterwards?
- Do you want to initiate a sex talk but when the opportunity comes, you don't take it?
- Do you want to confidently provide age-appropriate & medically-accurate information?
Subscribe for a few Emails each month
& IMMEDIATELY get my MINI-Checklist of Sex Talks to start BEFORE your kid turns 10 years-old
It's FINALLY Here!! The Digital Downloads that make the talks SO SIMPLE!
Why Watch My Videos?
Are you Ready to Answer the 1st Sex Question?
Has your kid just asked you where do babies come from? Watch this video to learn how to answer this question without saying the word sex!
Learn How to Dispel Myths
Not every sex talk is about sex. Teaching your kid about sexual expressions they may hear helps to normalize their body and dispel myths.
Protecting Your Kid From Sexual Predators
Kids between the ages of 7-13 are most vulnerable to becoming victims of Child Sexual Abuse. 95% of all child molestation can be prevented through education. Learn how to have these sex talks that can potentially prevent your child from becoming a victim.
Frequently Asked Questions
Majority of these Questions come from @thekathleenhema IG, YT, & TT accounts
Kathleen has a Master in Public Health and has worked in teen pregnancy & HIV/AIDS prevention as well as sex education and she takes a public health approach to the sex talks. Her advice is based on the evidence-informed approach from the World Health Organization's International Technical Guidance for Sexuality Education. She uses public health theories on behavior change and developing one's self-efficacy to guide her videos, course, and parenting program. She does all the boring stuff so you can just start having the sex talks without having to do the research.
Kathleen provides parents with the medically-accurate and factual information for each sex talk. She explains how to have each talk in an age-appropriate way & is developmentally digestible for the child. Lastly, she gives parents the opportunity to explain why they believe what they believe. Basically, parents get to share their personal or family values and beliefs around the topic.
This is the underlying methodology to the Modern Day Sex Talks. This ensures your child receives factual information while providing the space so you can share your values (religious, cultural, or personal) during each sex talk. Because every parent has values! All parents want to share their values with their kids. Kathleen acknowledges that and creates the space for parents to share their values in each sex talk.
Yes, you CAN Apply! Kathleen wants to help ALL parents succeed in the talks but the course is designed for parents who are about to have the sex, masturbation, and porn talk AND are struggling to even get started. This course is not open to all parents.
- Do you freeze when your kid asks you a sex question?
- Have you avoided a sex talk?
- Would you like to know when to have all the different sex talks?
- Is your child in the intermediate age?
If you answered YES to any of those questions fill out this form, and let's see - if this course right for you? The Program & Course is designed to eliminate your fears around the talks and feel so confident and prepared by the end of it - that you actually initiate these talks instead of waiting for your kid to ask the question!
If you think it's impossible that you would ever initiate a sex, masturbation, or porn talk with your kid - Kathleen is waiting to hear from you!!
After you complete the 1.5 hour course, you will have the skills to have the foundational sex talks with your child.
You will totally have the confidence to grab those teachable moment opportunities about sex and sexuality because you know how it fits into your plan for the talks over the next 3-5 years.
The Program is a monthly LIVESTREAM where you continue to build your skills and knowledge about topics and questions that arise! What topics each month are initiated by parents in the program and hosted by me!
I deliver mini-educational lectures on topics so that you can take the skills that you've learned during the course and apply it to the topic of the month.
Past Topics for the Monthly chats included:
- How to move beyond "no means no" during the intermediate age?
- Is kissing appropriate behavior for 9 year-olds?
- How to effectively talk about puberty so your pre-teen doesn't shut you out!
- What you need to know about IBSA & how to prevent your kid from becoming a victim of it.
I know the sex talks don't stop after you take a course. I want to motivate you each month to keep the talks going. I want to personally coach you through this important time in parenting!
Kathleen is committed to offering tailored guidance to all parents who complete the Top 3 Talks Parenting Course. She offers monthly LIVE Mom Chats in order to answer your questions and provide motivation as you continue to have the sex talks. If you are looking to hear how Kathleen would answer a certain question or ask her advice regarding your child's sex education, find out more about how to join the Top 3 Talks Parenting Program & Course.
- Do you have a 12, 13, 14, or 15 year old?
- Have you tried initiating a sex talk with them and they just ignore you or worse, walk away?
- "Topics from a Jar" is designed for parents who want to have the sex talks with their teen but haven't been successful at actually getting their teen to participate.
"Topics from a Jar" has 26 questions and answers that take on average 5-7 minutes (for each topic) to discuss with your teen. Kathleen knows how hard it can be to get your teen to participate in the sex talks. She has eliminated your worries by providing YOU with the script that has been successfully used by parents to initiate the first topic! It's the words you can say to your teen to prove that this activity is going to be worth their time.
How many times have you heard, "the talk is outdated, you need to have lots of small, ongoing talks with your teen" but then they never tell you how to do that! "Topics from a Jar" is the answer. There are 26 Questions that you use to prompt a conversation with your teen. The answers are included so you don't have to go searching for what to add to the conversation. You can easily make sure your teen has the medically-accurate and factual information.
These 26 topics aren't designed to be asked and answered all at once! It's up to you to make it a part of a routine every other week. Do you have 5 minutes to have an ice-cream with your teen? Can you do that 26 times over the next 12 months? Then grab an ice-cream and pick a Topic from the Jar.
It takes 15 minutes from printing out the topics and answers to getting them into the jar. The hardest part will be introducing the activity to your teen!
Kathleen recommends to make it a part of something that they enjoy doing too! If ice-cream isn't their thing, then suggest getting a bubble tea or a hot chocolate or an iced-coffee. Just find something, ANYTHING that you would be willing to do 26 times with your teen over the next year!
***There's also PUBERTY Topics in a Jar for your 8, 9, 10, or 11 year-old! It's an EASY way to cover 30 puberty questions that so many kids ask! You get the questions and the answers of course!***
Are you ready to commit to ensuring your teen has accurate information about sex, sexuality, and sexual health over the next 12 months? Find out more here!
The Modern Day Sex Talks
Kathleen Hema, MPH
I've been working in the sex education field for 15 years teaching sex education to children, adolescents, teens, young adults, & parents. I'm now a full-time content creator making educational videos for parents on how to have the sex talks. Find me on Youtube, Tiktok, & Instagram. Follow me for a daily dose of sex education for parents!
As parents, we can share our values & we should!
I believe that family values are important to be shared with our kids. I truly believe that all parents want the best for their kids and this includes sex education.
No matter what your religious values or cultural beliefs are, I'll show you how to incorporate it into the sex talks.
Curious to Know How I Answer a Sex Question? Use My Scripts!
Are you curious to know how I would answer a specific sex question? Check out my YouTube Channel! I answer sex questions & give parents a script to use with their child - basically it's the same words I would use to answer that sex question with my own child!
How to Get the Sex Talks Started
So many well-intentioned organizations, journalists, & teachers tell parents to:
- Start talking with your kid about sex!
- Start talking early and talk often!
- Don't wait until your child is a teen to explain the birds & the bees!
BUT then these folks never explain HOW TO actually go about actually having those sex talks!
My YouTube videos are organized into playlists based on age-range:
- Primary Age (4,5,6)
- Intermediate Age (7.8.9)
- Middle School Age (10.11.12)
- High School Age ( 13,14,15)
Find the playlist that your child just exited - and see if you've covered those 10-12 topics already!
FAQs from Parents - Answers are in the Links!
How do I explain to my kid, What is Sex?
When do I talk to my kid about Porn?
How do I explain the Myths about Masturbation?
How do I explain Premarital Sex?
I want to be inclusive of LGBTQ, how do I talk to them about sexual orientation?
A lot of parenting programs use fear to get parents to do something. I don't want you to be scared to talk to your kids. Fear can be a way to get someone to do something, but it's not my way.
Kathleen Hema
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Parent Workshops & Seminars / Collaborations / Podcasts
- I work with schools, organizations, and businesses providing generalized information on how to have the sex talks at different ages as well as bespoke parent seminars & workshops on how to prepare for the modern-day sex talks. Let's discuss your needs and what your goals are for the parents you serve.
- I would love to collaborate with you! Send me an email!
- I love listening to podcasts as well as being a guest! Tell me about your podcast and what you hope your listeners will learn by having me as a guest.
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"I was worried and not so sure about how to start the sex talks for each of my kids but I still wanted to give them the best info I could. You can find most of the subjects for the sex talks on her channel, even those taboo topics! Her videos are honest & educational & it's fun to listen to her. Thank You for being there & helping all of us worried moms!"
"Kathleen is exactly the person I want this information from. Her background in sex education, added to her own experience as a mother, then combined with her warm and non-judgmental approach, is precisely the voice I need to help me with these talks with my children. She makes the difficult conversations easy, and her method of layering topics throughout childhood is so brilliant and simple to implement. I’m so thankful to have found Kathleen, and even more grateful the world now has access to her so that our kids can grow up without the shame and misguidance that so often comes with becoming an adult!"
"Kathleen is exactly the person I want this information from. Her background in sex education, added to her own experience as a mother, then combined with her warm and non-judgmental approach, is precisely the voice I need to help me with these talks with my children. She makes the difficult conversations easy, and her method of layering topics throughout childhood is so brilliant and simple to implement. I’m so thankful to have found Kathleen, and even more grateful the world now has access to her so that our kids can grow up without the shame and misguidance that so often comes with becoming an adult!"
- Naoko, mom of 7yo & 15yo
Tokyo, Japan
"Kathleen is exactly the person I want this information from. Her background in sex education, added to her own experience as a mother, then combined with her warm and non-judgmental approach, is precisely the voice I need to help me with these talks with my children. She makes the difficult conversations easy, and her method of layering topics throughout childhood is so brilliant and simple to implement. I’m so thankful to have found Kathleen, and even more grateful the world now has access to her so that our kids can grow up without the shame and misguidance that so often comes with becoming an adult!"
"Kathleen is exactly the person I want this information from. Her background in sex education, added to her own experience as a mother, then combined with her warm and non-judgmental approach, is precisely the voice I need to help me with these talks with my children. She makes the difficult conversations easy, and her method of layering topics throughout childhood is so brilliant and simple to implement. I’m so thankful to have found Kathleen, and even more grateful the world now has access to her so that our kids can grow up without the shame and misguidance that so often comes with becoming an adult!"
"Kathleen is exactly the person I want this information from. Her background in sex education, added to her own experience as a mother, then combined with her warm and non-judgmental approach, is precisely the voice I need to help me with these talks with my children. She makes the difficult conversations easy, and her method of layering topics throughout childhood is so brilliant and simple to implement. I’m so thankful to have found Kathleen, and even more grateful the world now has access to her so that our kids can grow up without the shame and misguidance that so often comes with becoming an adult!"
- Asa Akira, mom of 2 young kids
NYC, USA
"Growing up was awkward enough without culture, religion and avoidant parents mixed in. So as a parent, I'm grateful for teachers like Kathleen Hema who embrace the awkward AND make it accessible and appropriate to include sex as a natural and necessary part of parenting. I'm in awe of her ability to pave the way forward for us as we reparent ourselves AND learn to show up effectively for our children."
"Kathleen is exactly the person I want this information from. Her background in sex education, added to her own experience as a mother, then combined with her warm and non-judgmental approach, is precisely the voice I need to help me with these talks with my children. She makes the difficult conversations easy, and her method of layering topics throughout childhood is so brilliant and simple to implement. I’m so thankful to have found Kathleen, and even more grateful the world now has access to her so that our kids can grow up without the shame and misguidance that so often comes with becoming an adult!"
"Growing up was awkward enough without culture, religion and avoidant parents mixed in. So as a parent, I'm grateful for teachers like Kathleen Hema who embrace the awkward AND make it accessible and appropriate to include sex as a natural and necessary part of parenting. I'm in awe of her ability to pave the way forward for us as we reparent ourselves AND learn to show up effectively for our children."
-Rasathi, stepmom & mom to 2 kids
Singapore
My Kid Walked In On Me Having Sex!? - WHAT DO I DO?
Sex Education for for children is completely different than Sex Ed for adults.
I show parents how to intentionally deliver the sex talks in age-appropriate ways.
"Kathleen was so kind and helpful in giving me advice on how to talk to my son about sensitive topics. I reached out and she was happy to help."
"As mum to three boys, tackling sex and sexuality was a bit daunting for me; my own sex education was impacted by cultural and religious traditions including attending an all girls school. Kathleen's medically accurate and factual information is exactly what we were looking for, and the way she presents it in age-appropriate sections means that we can tailor our responses to our boys' ages, before adding in our own family values and beliefs around sex and sexuality. We want our children to be informed, confident and comfortable when discussing sex; Kathleen's videos and the information she shares helps ensure we're helping our children achieve this in an age appropriate way. I cannot recommend Kathleen or her videos enough!"
"As mum to three boys, tackling sex and sexuality was a bit daunting for me; my own sex education was impacted by cultural and religious traditions including attending an all girls school. Kathleen's medically accurate and factual information is exactly what we were looking for, and the way she presents it in age-appropriate sections means that we can tailor our responses to our boys' ages, before adding in our own family values and beliefs around sex and sexuality. We want our children to be informed, confident and comfortable when discussing sex; Kathleen's videos and the information she shares helps ensure we're helping our children achieve this in an age appropriate way. I cannot recommend Kathleen or her videos enough!"
- Alexa, mom of 14yo & 12yo
Massachusetts, USA
"As mum to three boys, tackling sex and sexuality was a bit daunting for me; my own sex education was impacted by cultural and religious traditions including attending an all girls school. Kathleen's medically accurate and factual information is exactly what we were looking for, and the way she presents it in age-appropriate sections means that we can tailor our responses to our boys' ages, before adding in our own family values and beliefs around sex and sexuality. We want our children to be informed, confident and comfortable when discussing sex; Kathleen's videos and the information she shares helps ensure we're helping our children achieve this in an age appropriate way. I cannot recommend Kathleen or her videos enough!"
"As mum to three boys, tackling sex and sexuality was a bit daunting for me; my own sex education was impacted by cultural and religious traditions including attending an all girls school. Kathleen's medically accurate and factual information is exactly what we were looking for, and the way she presents it in age-appropriate sections means that we can tailor our responses to our boys' ages, before adding in our own family values and beliefs around sex and sexuality. We want our children to be informed, confident and comfortable when discussing sex; Kathleen's videos and the information she shares helps ensure we're helping our children achieve this in an age appropriate way. I cannot recommend Kathleen or her videos enough!"
"As mum to three boys, tackling sex and sexuality was a bit daunting for me; my own sex education was impacted by cultural and religious traditions including attending an all girls school. Kathleen's medically accurate and factual information is exactly what we were looking for, and the way she presents it in age-appropriate sections means that we can tailor our responses to our boys' ages, before adding in our own family values and beliefs around sex and sexuality. We want our children to be informed, confident and comfortable when discussing sex; Kathleen's videos and the information she shares helps ensure we're helping our children achieve this in an age appropriate way. I cannot recommend Kathleen or her videos enough!"
- Dani, mom of 3 young boys
NSW, Australia
"If you're a parent looking for some guidance in your role as your kids' primary sexual health educator, check out Kathleen's YouTube channel. The videos are short and really helpful. Maybe you'll get some ideas and maybe you'll get confirmation from a qualified sex education and sexual health specialist that you're already doing the right thing!"
"As mum to three boys, tackling sex and sexuality was a bit daunting for me; my own sex education was impacted by cultural and religious traditions including attending an all girls school. Kathleen's medically accurate and factual information is exactly what we were looking for, and the way she presents it in age-appropriate sections means that we can tailor our responses to our boys' ages, before adding in our own family values and beliefs around sex and sexuality. We want our children to be informed, confident and comfortable when discussing sex; Kathleen's videos and the information she shares helps ensure we're helping our children achieve this in an age appropriate way. I cannot recommend Kathleen or her videos enough!"
"If you're a parent looking for some guidance in your role as your kids' primary sexual health educator, check out Kathleen's YouTube channel. The videos are short and really helpful. Maybe you'll get some ideas and maybe you'll get confirmation from a qualified sex education and sexual health specialist that you're already doing the right thing!"
- Dave, dad of 2 young kids
Geneva, Switzerland
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